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She always told me that I was Daddy’s girl and I had no reason to not believe that. I knew I loved my Daddy and thought he rocked the world.
It wasn’t until Dad lost his battle and his life to cancer and wasn’t until she lost her battle and life to cancer that I realized how much I was her girl. I am like her in some ways.
Of course, there are so many more ways that I dream I can be like her. She was grace and faith and unconditional love. She was truly a lady.
My mom just like your mom probably, had a way about her that influenced me and she didn’t even have to speak.
During particularly difficult and trying times, she would say something to me that was so sweet and simple and yet so right to the point. My mom would say, “you need to focus baby girl! And I do too – BOFUS need to!” It was a silly word and would always make me laugh no matter what the circumstances were.
She was to me, the epitome of the “Never give up” philosophy. In fact, she bought me a poster when I was in grade school with the “Don’t Quit” poem. She started teaching me early to defy the odds and press on, to focus.
That’s what she did during her battle with cancer. They gave her very slim odds of living past 18 months after her diagnosis. She didn’t give up and she didn’t give in. She kept on living.
It would be 5 years after her initial diagnosis that she would lose her life.
There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think of her and miss her. But I know she is still very much in my life. There are days I want to quit and want to give up and I can still hear her whispering in my ear, “BOFUS!”
And then there’s that poem that will always make me think of her;
When things go wrong as they sometimes will;
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill;
When the funds are low, and the debts are high;
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh;
When care is pressing you down a bit –
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out;
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;
And you can never tell how close you are;
It may be near when it seems afar.
So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things go wrong that you mustn’t quit.
That message? It’s not just for me. You too, mustn’t quit. On a particularly tough day, think of Mama Jaymes word, “BOFUS” and let it be a reminder to you – to keep on going. Keep pressing on. Never give up. Don’t quit.
~ Robynn Jaymes
Happy birthday Mama. September 20.1926 – January 25.2013